Your attorney handles
the divorce.
I help with everything
it’s doing
to you.
Therapy for the psychological toll of high-conflict divorce:
When it’s taking up far more of your life than you want it to.
The divorce may be happening on paper.
But you're living it everywhere.
It follows you to work, where it's harder to concentrate.
It seeps into your time with your children, when part of your attention is somewhere else.
It finds its way into friendships, family dinners, weekends, and the middle of the night.
An email from your ex can change the rest of your day. A new development can make everything feel uncertain again.
And somewhere between the attorneys, decisions, conflict, parenting, finances, anger, and grief, something else can happen:
You can begin to lose sight of yourself.
You're Ending a Marriage.
But You're Still Living Inside It.
That's one of the hard things about high-conflict divorce:
You're expected to move forward while court proceedings, documents, finances, filings, and never-ending conflict keep pulling you back.
You may be ready for the marriage to be over, and still feel incredible pain about the situation you’re in.
You can want distance from your ex and still be deeply affected by them.
You can be relieved about what's ending and frightened by what comes next.
You can know the marriage is done and still have no idea what your life looks like without it.
Because ending a marriage isn't only about separating from another person.
It's also about separating who you are from who you were together.
The Legal Process Can End A Marriage,
But It Can’t Tell You Who You Are After It
A court can make the divorce official.
Attorneys can negotiate the finances.
An agreement can determine when your children are with you.
But none of those things answers the question that remains after a high-conflict divorce.
Who do you want to be when this divorce is no longer at the center of your life?
That's where our work begins.
Therapy gives us room to explore the grief, attachment, uncertainty, old emotional patterns, and questions of identity and meaning that exist beneath the legal conflict.
Not so you can become better at being divorced.
So you can begin becoming yourself again.
And you don't have to wait until everything is resolved to start on that path.
When Therapy Can Help
The divorce is taking up far more of your life than you want it to.
You want to move forward, but part of you feels trapped in everything that’s happening.
You feel overwhelmed by uncertainty about court processes, paperwork, and the legal system.
You're trying to figure out what is yours to control — and how to let go of what isn't.
You've spent so much of your time thinking about your ex, your children, and the case that you've lost sight of yourself.
You're beginning to worry not just about getting through the divorce, but about what your life will look like when it's over.